I hope all of you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Let’s try not to get too crazy with Black Friday, which is now Thursday shopping. It is a time to enjoy family and friends. God bless.
Month: November 2013
Why I Like Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson
I decided to write something a little more light-hearted today. It is pouring rain and we are expecting snow tonight, and truth be told, these long dark nights are not for me. I need light and lots of it. So for those of you who struggle with depression, I feel your pain, and you are in my prayers.
So, today I am going to write about why I like Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. My daughter and I were watching The Game Plan this morning which is a cute movie about a pro-football player who finds out he has a daughter. I think that Dwayne Johnson is fun to watch in movies, and not because he is an attractive man. He seems like a guy who does not take himself too seriously. He seems laid back and open to diverse roles. He can be shooting bad guys in one movie, is the Tooth Fairy in another, and then is body slamming someone on national television.
Truth-be-told I had not seen many of his recent action movies. Rated “R” movies are just too gruesomely violent these days for me to stomach. So my husband knows if it is an action flick with an “R” rating, I won’t watch it. Some of the action movies I have seen him in were entertaining, though. And who could forget The Scorpion King?! (she says with a chuckle)
As a mom and as a woman it is endearing for me to see a tough guy who is willing to do kids movies. He is clearly comfortable with his career and who he is, and in Hollywood that is a rare find. Perhaps that is a little bit of what I saw with the guys I served with in the military. They were tough soldiers, sailors, airmen, and Marines, but were great fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons. Some of them even watch Disney movies. Shhh, don’t tell anyone.
I honestly do not care for many of the actors in Hollywood. I am an Anglophile. Most of my favorite actors and actresses are British (Emma Thompson, Christian Bale, Michael Cain, Alan Rickman, Maggie Smith, Richard Armitage (North and South is so good!), and a lot more). I think that they demand more from their actors and are diverse in their roles and mediums. Plus, I miss the accent (I was blessed to live in England for 14 months).
The point is that Dwayne Johnson may not be an Academy Award winning actor, but he is entertaining to watch. What does that even mean these days?! Like the Nobel Peace Prize, it is all politics. The next time Dwayne Johnson does a kids movie, you will find me sitting back and enjoying. Life is too serious as it is, so it is nice to see someone who is successful and not so worried about their image.
Preparing for Advent: Waiting in Joyful Hope
Growing up in my family home, we were ready to celebrate Christmas the day after Thanksgiving, just like the rest of America. Advent was something we did at Mass on Sunday with the lighting of the Advent wreath. It was not something that we did at home. It was not something we lived. Then I got married 3.5 years ago, and I began meeting godly women who try to live out the liturgical year over the secular calendar. I started to pay attention to the movements and rhythms of the Church and discovered what I had been missing.
Advent makes us give up instant gratification. It is a season of waiting in joyful hope. As Catholics we wait for two things: First the Incarnation on Christmas and Second, we are still waiting for the Second Coming of Our Lord. Look at it is this way. The Jews waited 4000 years for the Messiah. I can wait a month to jump into Christmas in order to fully live out Advent. My husband and I go shopping for our Christmas Tree on Gaudete Sunday (3rd Sunday of Advent). If we did not travel at Christmas, we would wait until Christmas Eve. The Church does not start celebrating Christmas until Christmas Eve Vigil.
Waiting can be hard. We are surrounded by Christmas carols, trees, decorated houses and stores, and holiday food. It is hard to not partake. Perhaps slowly work Advent into your family’s traditions this year. Get an Advent wreath and light it each night. Imagine what the Jews felt like as they waited for the promised Messiah. Truly think about what it means to wait for the Second Coming. Are we all ready?
Here are some suggestions for living out Advent more fully:
*If you have not done so already, push back buying your tree a week or two. Or wait until Gaudete Sunday like us.
*Wait to turn your Christmas lights on outside until Christmas Eve and then keep them up during the liturgical Christmas season that can go well into January depending on when you decide to stop. Some cultures celebrate Christmas until the Presentation of Our Lord and others until his Baptism, and some until Epiphany.
*Do a Jesse Tree with your family. My friend Christine over at Domestic Vocation has a full guide to doing a Jesse Tree.
*Light the Advent wreath during dinner.
*Light the Advent wreath and do a prayer reflection with your family. End singing O Come, O Come Emmanuel
*Postpone Christmas music at least until Gaudete Sunday. Now this one is hard in our culture. You may have to bring CDs or your iPod in your car.
*If you are not ready to jump fully into Advent, perhaps just make Sundays a Christmas free time that focuses on the beatiful season of Advent.
Remember we are a joyful people. We know that Christ is coming and that is why we wait in joyful hope. Advent can teach us a lot about the spiritual life. Sometimes we must be patient and wait for joy, but God uses that waiting to shape us.
How can you bring Advent into your home? Do you have Advent traditions that you do in your family? Share them in the comments section.
Jesus Christ Leading Us Into the Deep
” Then he made the disciples get into the boat and precede him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowds.After doing so, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When it was evening he was there alone.Meanwhile the boat, already a few miles offshore, was being tossed about by the waves, for the wind was against it.During the fourth watch of the night,* he came toward them, walking on the sea.When the disciples saw him walking on the sea they were terrified. “It is a ghost,” they said, and they cried out in fear.At once [Jesus] spoke to them, “Take courage, it is I;* do not be afraid.”Peter said to him in reply, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.”He said, “Come.” Peter got out of the boat and began to walk on the water toward Jesus.But when he saw how [strong] the wind was he became frightened; and, beginning to sink, he cried out, “Lord, save me!”Immediately Jesus stretched out his hand and caught him, and said to him, “O you of little faith,* why did you doubt?”After they got into the boat, the wind died down.Those who were in the boat did him homage, saying, “Truly, you are the Son of God.”Matthew 14:22-33
A lot of the spiritual life is about being led out into the deep. I was thinking about St. Peter walking out on the waves as I prayed my Rosary Sunday evening. I was thinking about it because I lack the courage to step out of the boat a lot of the time. To be led deeper into God, towards God. It takes great courage. It is something that a lot of us intentionally avoid.
We all like to be comfortable. We want to feel good in our spiritual life, but faith is not about feelings. In fact, the journey to holiness requires us to get out of the boat and serve others outside of our comfort zone. I am learning this by doing the ministries I have been called to. Being a Eucharistic Minister to the sick, was not my doing. Our Lord called me there to minister to his faithful who are on, or carrying their Cross. It is deeply uncomfortable. Why? Well, I struggle with fears of death, I have to walk into strangers’ rooms where they are suffering greatly (haven’t done that since 9-11), I am a deeply empathetic person, so it is really hard for me to see people suffering. Even with my struggles, He blesses me as I bring Him to those in need. In doing this ministry I am serving “the least of these” in His name. I am actually walking into the deep.
I am also teaching junior high religious education this year. Teaching is a gift God has given me. I have taught for years. It just happens that I believe junior high is the hardest age group to teach. It is a difficult time. I hated junior high. It is an awkward time period. I really like my students. They don’t know it, but I offer up Masses, Rosaries, and prayers for them weekly. But, more than anything, I want them to have a personal encounter with the Risen Christ. That is my prayer for them. All I can do is give them the tools, they have to choose to answer His call.
Being a catechist to this age group requires great patience on my part. I can have a tendency to be too theological at times and that is not what this group needs from me. I can save that for Lay Dominicans. What they need is to see the joy that stems from the Christian life. They need to know that Our Lord loves them and is calling them to follow Him. They need to know what a gift the Church is to us. What an incredible gift we have in the Sacraments. The world does not understand us, in fact, it is hostile to Christ and His Church. It has been that way since the beginning. We need to give these kids the tools to help them live out the mission. I have had to acknowledge my own limitations. I am not these kids’ parents. It is their parents’ job to teach and raise them in the faith. Something that is sorely lacking and that is why I pray so much for them.
When Christ calls us to serve, He is calling us into the deep. We are to keep our eyes on Him and trust that He will lead us. St. Peter could walk on water, until he took his eyes off of Jesus. I know it is the end of the liturgical year and we just celebrated the Feast of Christ the King of the Universe, but trust and a deeper relationship with God were on my mind. Probably because no title reminds of God’s awe-inspiring Creation, power, and authority than Christ the King of the Universe. It reminds me of how truly small I am.
To be quite honest, ministry is much easier for me than deepening my spiritual life through prayer. Yes, I pray Lauds and Vespers, as well as a Rosary every day as I prepare for a secondary vocation as a Lay Dominican. When I enter into deeper prayer, I get the feeling like I need to catch my breath. Like I am not ready for the deep end of the pool. I can only describe it as a sense of the Numinous that CS Lewis writes about. I get a sense of awe that is accompanied by dread. Going deeper into the heart of God is not easy. Look at the Saints. It comes with joy, but also great trial and suffering.
My tendency is to want to stay in my comfort prayer zone. I do my prayers, I read the Scripture often, I read theological books, but I tend to turn and run from anything resembling contemplative prayer. When I read the mystical prayer experiences of many of the Saints my first thought is, that is just not for me Lord. Okay, so I won’t be levitating anytime soon and that is not what I am afraid of. It is more a fear of the unknown. Part of it is the darkness of sin that I see on me, which is why I go to regular Confession. There is nothing in this life that will remind us of our sinful nature like prayer and Confession. I feel I am not worthy of a deep encounter with God. I have to get over this and be humble, but not self-pitying. Part of it is fear of the unknown, especially the Numinous. Some of it is my fear of suffering.
The great paradox of joy is that it only comes from God. It is not happiness. It is something so much deeper and more profound. I have experienced real joy only a few times in my life: during the reception of Sacraments to include my wedding day, the day my daughter was born, and the day she was Baptized. But joy only comes when we are fully open to it. It also seems to come to us once we are in our vocation, receive a Sacrament, or some other grace. That is my personal experience. In order to more fully receive joy, we must free ourselves to God’s call in our lives, including that call to follow him into the deep, and that inevitably means the Cross. There is no Resurrection without the Cross. I know this and that is why I struggle with moving forward at times. I long for God, but I allow my own fear to win out sometimes. I know the Cross is conquered, but I still have to go through my own Cross (I carry it daily) and death some day.
I have to wonder if that is why we distract ourselves so much these days. We do everything we can to block God out. We have TVs, computers, radios, tablets, cell phones, etc on constantly. It’s as though we do not want to hear that still small voice calling to us. It makes us uncomfortable. He requires change from us. He requires we give our all to Him. He calls us on the path to Sainthood. That is the meaning of life: to be a saint.
How many of us stay in our comfort zones in how we serve Christ? How many of us push back against a deeper encounter with God in our prayer life? How many of us rely on good feelings rather than a genuine faith in God? Do we really want joy? Will we give up everything to attain joy?
7 Quick Takes for this Gray and Occasionally Sunny November Day
Today I am linked up over at Jennifer Fulwiler’s Conversion Diary for 7 Quick Takes. Join us with your quick takes for the week here:
1. My husband and I bought our first home together in May of this year. We actually ended up in the town where our parish is located (long story as to why we drove 30 minutes to Mass…let’s just say “spirit of Vatican II” and leave it at that). My husband now commutes every day, but we think that it is worth it. We have been blessed with even more friendships through our church and have been able to get more involved. We have become good friends with a family with four girls. I teach junior high religious ed with the dad/husband. They are our board game friends. We have almost made Sunday dinner and games a ritual. We chat after Mass and then end up planning to play games and have dinner later that day. It has been a great blessing for us. When we lived in Boone, NC we had a couple we used to play Settlers of Cataan and pinochle with. Now we play all kinds of games with our friends from church, including a Star Trek version of Settlers (so awesome!).
2. I am learning to enjoy reading the same book over and over again to my toddler. One of my blog readers from CatholicMom.com pointed out that I need to foster a love of “nonsense” with my child. I thought about it and decided that she is right. I used to have a great imagination and I am working on my first novel, so I should be able to read Pinkalicious to my daughter and enjoy it, even if it is not one of my favorite books. Michaela is even “reading” to herself these days and that makes me so proud.
3. Conquering my coffee addiction is not going so well (she says while slurping down a peppermint mocha). Facebook was easy for me, compared to coffee. I think that some of my readers are misunderstanding my conquering addictions. Holiness is about letting go of the things we allow to control us, so that we are free to enjoy them in moderation. Facebook was leading me to sin. Coffee is an addiction, not something that I merely enjoy. God gave us these gifts as “pleasant inns” to borrow from CS Lewis. That means we enjoy them, but not allow them to consume us. If we read the works of the Saints, we will see how they call us to detach from those things that control us, which really means things that replace God in our lives. Today, I did not do as well as I wanted with the coffee, but I will try again tomorrow and by God’s grace be freed from my addiction, and hopefully some day just be able to enjoy coffee, rather than feel I “need” it. A priest told me that I needed to do this in Confession recently. No one “needs” coffee he said.
4. I got to go on an impromptu date with my husband last night. My awesome friend Christine (you can check her blog,, Domestic Vocation, out here) agreed to babysit our toddler with 2 hours notice. We had not been on a date in over two months. I am sure all of you parents understand. We had a nice dinner at a cafe downtown. We even walked down the street holding hands. Some day that will embarrass our daughter. I think when we kiss it already embarrasses her. There are such similarities between a two year old’s reactions and a teenager’s.
5. This past week our junior high religious ed class discussed vocations. Have you talked about vocations with your kids? The most important thing we discern is where God is calling us to. Not everyone is called to marriage, even though that is what our society tells us. We need to encourage vocations to the Priesthood or religious life. Here are two great videos to share with your kids about vocations. The first is for young men on the Priesthood and the second is for young women on becoming a sister or nun.
6. I have a confession to make. I do not make my pancakes from scratch. I think about it, but the box of multi-grain pancakes at Kroger is so much easier. I just add water, and then, whatever I want. This morning I made sweet potato pancakes with the leftover mashed sweet potatoes from dinner two nights ago. I followed the directions on the box and then added 3/4 of mashed sweet potato puree, and a dash of cinnamon. They were so good. I did not even use syrup. You can add whatever you want. One of my favorites is cottage cheese and blueberries. Give it a try! Sneak some healthy stuff into those pancakes for picky eaters.
7. This song is so beautiful. I hope it blesses you as you go into your weekend. My husband and I saw Casting Crowns in concert when we were dating. It was a great show.
Wherein I Rant About the Treatment of Priests by Some Members of the Laity
There is something that is going on in many Catholic parishes that I find disturbing. It is something that I have noticed the more I get involved in the Church. It is an utter lack of Christian charity towards our priests by some members of the laity. Priests are attacked for pretty much everything that they do. They are scrutinized constantly. The Mass is too long, it is too short, the Homily is too long, the priest preached on orthodoxy, the priest preached on contraception, divorce, abortion, or gay marriage in line with what the Catholic Church actually teaches, there should be women on the altar during Holy Thursday even though it is a liturgical violation, the priest does not use gender neutral speech, the priest takes too long with the Eucharist, he uses the Eucharistic Prayers I or IV which are too long, he is asking too much of the altar servers, he is not friendly enough, he is too friendly, he is changing things, he is too young, he is too old. Are you getting the picture? If they are a Catholic priest, every aspect of them has been examined and criticized by someone. This is especially prevalent for the new orthodox priests coming out of the seminary.
There is a major lack of humility and charity by these folks. I myself have opened my mouth when I should not have and the priests were charitable enough to correct me. I am appalled by some of the things that are said and done to our priests. Are we Christians or not, because we are not acting like it. Here are some things that might help us to remember our place.
1. The Church is a MONARCHY, not a democracy. The priest is the head of his parish. He makes the ultimate decisions. He uses pastoral, liturgical, and other councils to guide his decisions, but when it comes down to ultimate authority, it is his. Vatican II did not change that. While Vatican II did work to end clericalism that had developed, much out of necessity (the majority of people were illiterate, giving huge responsibilities to priests), it still upholds the priest’s authority. As long as the priest is not doing anything heretical or heterodoxical, when he makes a choice, we must submit in obedience. Period. It’s a great spiritual lesson. We all must submit in obedience to God.
2. Humility. I don’t know about you, but I do not have the philosophical or theological education that an average parish priest undergoes in seminary. I have heard outright heresy from the pulpit and that should be addressed by the Bishop, but in the majority of cases, they know what they are talking about. Part of the reason I am Catholic is because I trust the Church’s 2000 years of history, tradition, writings, etc. to be the truth, because I am not the one who decides truth. If a priest preaches on something that you have chosen to be disobedient on, it is on you, not him. Contraception, abortion, gay marriage, IVF, embryonic stem cell research, divorce, etc. are all authentic doctrine of the Church that we are required to submit to. If you don’t like the priest preaching the Truth then you need to set up a meeting with him so YOU can come to the fullness of truth. Pray hard for conversion. You can yell or send nasty emails to him all you want, it is God’s law, and his job is to bring us to the fullness of truth.
3. He gave up his life for us. I told my junior high students this past Sunday, that being a priest is to give up one’s life to serve us. They are dedicated to bringing Christ in the Sacraments to us. They are our spiritual fathers. They deserve our respect, prayers, admiration, and love. I don’t care if they are 27 or 101, it does not matter. They have all laid down their lives for Christ and His Church. None of us have a right to be uncharitable or mean-spirited towards them.
4. Put yourself in his place. Rather than be responsible for his own small family, a priest has decided to be responsible for hundreds, even thousands of people. That is a tremendous burden and a tall order. They do their best to serve all of us. They cannot make everyone happy, which is why they rely on Church teaching and the General Instruction of the Roman Missal (GIRM). Chances are when the priest makes a final decision, it is based on research and study.
It is time for the bickering to stop. I know that this is difficult for us Fallen creatures, but part of the journey to holiness is to learn how to work together in Christian community. At the parish level, the priest is the head of our community, not you, and not me. The next time you are at a meeting, practice the virtues of humility and charity. They will get you much farther than any sin possibly could. And more than anything, say thank you to your priest. I cannot even tell you how unbelievably thankful I am for our priests. God bless all of our priests. St. John Vianney, pray for us..
It’s Small Success Thursday at CatholicMom.com 11-21-2013
Once again it is Small Success Thursday over at CatholicMom.com. Have you thought about some of your successes for the week? Share them with us here. Here are three of mine:
1. I got moving again. I spent months training for a 5K and ran my first back in September. A week later I found out that I have a pinched nerve in my neck. That explained why my neck and right arm hurt so much when I was running. My neurologist told me that I need to rest. So for the last 2 months I have been pretty sedentary. Earlier this week I saw a runner and I actually missed running. Me?! I have always loathed running. When I was in the Navy I would run 2 miles and then switch to the elliptical machine because 2 miles was the farthest I ever wanted to run.
My neck and arm still hurt, but I took my daughter out on the trail to walk. It felt good to be out in the November sunshine along the river. It gave me the motivation to want to get back on track with exercising, even if it is limited by my body. Michaela loved running along the trail. This time of year kids have to spend more time in doors. Taking her out on the Greenway lets her get rid of some of that energy she has stored up.
2. After tackling my Facebook addiction, I have decided that coffee is next. I really enjoy sugar with a side of coffee. I don’t particularly enjoy the taste of coffee, but I like sugary drinks like pumpkin spice lattes, peppermint mochas, mocha frappes, or white chocolate mochas. Not exactly great on the waistline, my energy levels, or anxiety. My doctor is still trying to normalize my estrogen levels (I have estrogen and progesterone deficiencies which explain my 3 miscarriages) so I still have periods of anxiety and depression (Prozac is not a quick fix solution, especially when body chemistry is as complicated as mine).
With my struggles, coffee is not good for me. I know this, but I still drink it. A lot of caffeine makes my heart beat faster and I get anxious. The other thing that I have noticed is that my energy levels plummet in the afternoon, a few hours after my cup of coffee. So, even though I really enjoy a hot mocha on an autumn day, it is time for me to start doing what is best for me, rather than doing whatever I want. It is a great spiritual lesson. God wants what is best for us and that is why we have to look at ourselves and decide if something is good for me as an individual. Lots of people drink coffee without the issues I have, but they are not me. God wants me to die to self, and that means sacrificing certain things. It is a part of detaching from the world.
3. Homeschooling has begun. Okay, not in an official capacity, she is only 2. I have started taking her out and working on counting, letters, and numbers, though. When we walk on the trail we count ducks, bicyclists, walkers, and look at the color of leaves. We also work on new words. My daughter is a parrot right now. She tries to say anything and everything, that also means we have to watch what we say and what she sees on TV. I also picked up some educational DVDs for her at the Library. She has finally developed an interest in reading and wants me to read the same story to her over and over again. It is called Pinkalicious. It has absolutely nothing important to say, but she loves it. I am more of a Dr. Seuss fan myself. I am just happy that she wants me to read to her now. I have that book memorized now. Want to make some pink cupcakes?
