About

I really enjoy writing and I have a wide variety of interests. This blog is about my journey as a student theologian, wife, mother, and my poor attempt at being a Catholic. I am, for lack of a better term, an intellectual type.  I love to study, especially theology and philosophy. God uses my intellect to help me form a deeper relationship with him. I love Scholasticism! God has given me a deep sense of wonder and love of beauty. That is a major theme of my writing, and I am told, a typical trait of the theologian.

My studies are teaching me that I know very little in the face of the great mystery of the Blessed Trinity. Studying at the advanced level in theology only makes one more aware of how little they know and that little bit is meant to be shared. So this is me sharing the little bit that I have learned. There are times my writing may be sporadic on this blog as I homeschool my daughter, work my way through grad school, and maintain my writing for Catholic and secular websites. I will write here when I can and eventually, after this season, I will be able to devote more time to my love of writing.

On this blog you can expect me to write about my family, theology, the Church, wonder, beauty, homeschooling, poetry, photography, cooking, what I am studying in grad school, current issues of the day, etc. One of my biggest focuses is in abandoning ideology in favor of the Good News and holiness. I will have days devoted solely to beauty. Most of all I hope that my writing reflects my desire to grow in holiness. A while back I was blessed to become a regular contributor for the popular Catholic website: Catholic Exchange. Be sure to check out the wonderful articles on the site daily that will help you grow in holiness. I have recently become a contributor for my first secular publication, The Federalist. There I will cover abortion, religion, military topics, and news.

First, for those of you who do not know me personally, I would like to introduce myself. My name is Constance. I am a stay-at-home mom to one beautiful 5 year old girl. I have been married for 6 years to a wonderful man who works hard for us and who is teaching me the art of selflessness. I am a Navy Veteran and I have a BA in Psychology that I never plan to use. I am a full-time graduate student.  I am working on a MA in Theology with an emphasis in Philosophy.  I have started to homeschool our daughter in First Grade.

We are devout Roman Catholics. My husband and I really enjoy being involved in our Church. I like to stay up with current happenings in the Church and in the world, but I have to take a step back a lot of the time because I become too empathetic to my own detriment. I like to garden, cook, take pictures, walk and run, read, and play with my daughter. That’s a quick about me.

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My husband’s name is Phil, but these days he mainly goes by Daddy. We met online 7 years ago on the dating site Catholic Match. We both were looking to marry committed Catholics, but he lived in the mountains of North Carolina and I lived in East Tennessee, which meant that there were not a lot of young Catholics in our area. After all, we both lived in Baptist country. And while Baptists are lovely people, neither of us would ever convert.

My husband is a very talented wood-turner and I am sure I will be posting pictures of his work on the blog. He is the Director of Training for a building science training center. He is a 3rd Degree in the Knights of Columbus and current Grand Knight, on two boards and a volunteer for Habitat for Humanity (he even built houses in Nicaragua), and is deeply committed to our family. There have been numerous times that I have been awed by God’s choice of Phil for my husband.

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Our beautiful daughter’s name is Michaela. She is named for St. Michael the Archangel and my father. We knew that given the state of the world, any children we have would need strong patron and patronesses. Her middle name, Elizabeth, is for St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, a great saint for homeschoolers. Michaela is 5 years old and she is pretty much insane. She has so much energy and can barely sit still for 5 minutes at a time. She is a climber, explorer, extraordinarily intelligent, strong willed, extremely affectionate, artistic, an amazing builder, and she is the most amazing person that I have met. She is the snuggliest kid you will ever meet.  She loves hugs and to hold hands with people.

There have been numerous times throughout the past couple of years that I have looked at her and thought, “God, what were you thinking giving this amazing person to me, of all people?”, as well as, “Thank you God, she is the most incredible gift I have ever received.” My daughter inspires me, frustrates me, loves me, stuns me, and humbles me on a daily basis. While it can be a struggle for me to stay home at times because it can get lonely, I would not have it any other way. I am sure you will hear plenty about her on this blog.

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This is my family. We have 4 beautiful babies in Heaven (Victoria, Caleb, Marie, and most recently, Andrew). I will write about miscarriage from time-to-time because I know that there are other women and men who are grieving out there just like me. Orthodoxy is not decided by family size. God sanctifies each family in his own way. Miscarriage and infertility are very heavy Crosses.

I greatly appreciate you stopping by the blog and I pray that Our Lord blesses you by my words. Let’s be sojourners as we journey towards our ultimate goal: Heaven.  There are so many writers out there who bless me with their writing. Have a blessed day!

Feel free to leave a comment or you can email me at constance.t.hull81@gmail.com. I am not be able to respond to every email, but I do enjoy feedback and I read every comment and email I get (except when comboxes devolve into ranting, raving, and meanness). I cannot provide answers to theological, moral, or ecclesial matters in email. I do not have the time. That is what books are written to cover. Please keep feedback charitable and civil. We should try hard not to be an occasion of sin for anyone and ranting and attacking a writer is definitely a near occasion of sin for authors. I know it is for me. Writing is a deeply personal gift and while I know that a good many people will not like my work, it does not give people the right to be insulting and nasty. Pax Christi.

28 comments

  1. Thank you for your service!

  2. christtorch · · Reply

    Hi Constance! I’m so excited to find your blog! I’m looking forward to exploring it and reading more posts!

    God Bless,
    Ruth
    http://www.christtorch.wordpress.com

    1. holinessinmotherhood · · Reply

      Thank you so much for stopping by, Ruth! I hope Our Lord blesses you by what you find here. Your blog looks great too and I am now following it. God bless you always.

      1. Charles Michael Turner · ·

        Thought I would email you but it was returned so here is a diplicate;
        “Dear Constance Hull,
        I just read this by you and it was awesome. http://catholicexchange.com/author/constancehull

        Now I know that the Catholic church doesn’t teach science but I have an ability that is God given to see right thru the bull-crap. I not only believe God created the universe, I see how it works because it is part of my purpose to show the world. I can tell you this; the universe is a physical example of what God is teaching us to be a spiritual reality. As you are God’s Temple and your purpose is to radiate the spiritual laws of God’s love, what theoretical physicists haven’t learned yet is that each atom in the universe radiates the physical laws by continuing to give off the lowest potential energy, a gravitational wave. Time, space and gravitation (which includes gravity, dark matter and dark energy actions) are all actions of mass decaying into space itself. 2 Corinthians 4:18 which states to pay attention to the invisible because the visible is temporary. So God created a singularity that became three things, mass, energy and space and every atom is continuing to give off more space, the gravitational field.
        As Christ renews our spirit every day so too, our sun renew atoms every day so that mass is in static equilibrium appearing as if no processes are going on when in fact two processes are going on. Time and space are actions of mass decay into a gravitational field and Gravity, dark matter and dark energy are actions of wave collisions of the very fabric of space and the pulling of mass at a constant velosity while the mass is decreasing. Or the easy way to see what everyone misses is to realize that both particles and waves obey Newton’s laws of motion!
        I am working on a book about God, the bible and the universe explaining everything called
        “And now a word from our Sponsor”!
        My gravity theory Is called the expanding N.E.T. Wave theory and it’s copyrighted.
        I thought you might want to know the answers to the universe before others know. Everything in the universe is trinitiaitian if you have not noticed.
        Sincerely
        (Charles) Michael Turner.”

  3. Ruud Karsten · · Reply

    Hi Constance, great, your blog. I will follow it as well as I can. I am a man, husband and father, who recently retired from work. I do like your blog, since what you aim for in your married life is what I have always wanted and considered ideal, however has been an item of great controversy in my family. I believe in it! But I also take it as God’s grace, if a wife decides to aim for holiness in motherhood. My wife recently decided to turn away from church, and our three grown up children also seem to have forgotten everything I taught them in childhood about Jesus and His church. So I am left alone. Just opposite to your situation. I pray God every day that He may re-open their minds and hearts for Him.
    May God bless you and all you do for Him.
    Ruud

    1. holinessinmotherhood · · Reply

      Ruud,
      I am sorry to hear that your family has turned from Christ and His Church. They will be in my prayers. A lot of my family has left the Church too. Keep St. Monica in mind. Nothing is impossible for Christ!

  4. Ruud Karsten · · Reply

    Thank you, Constance, for your encouraging words
    Ruud

  5. emilyrlohman · · Reply

    Enjoyed reading! Thank you. I’m following!

  6. Lovely blog! Glad to have found you!! 🙂

  7. Fr Patrick Dooling, senior priest, San Carlos Cathedral, Monterey, CA · · Reply

    What a gift your blog is, Constance! Surrounded by military here in Minterey, I have learned to refer to what so many have endured as Post Traumatic Distress. (It would be a Disorder if they weren’t in distress!). Your ability to use your pain and anguish to teach is very powerful indeed, reminding me of the refrain from the 60s folk song by Richard Farina, “Pack Up Your Sorrows.” In Jesus,
    Fr Patrick

    1. Thank you for your comment, Fr. Patrick! I was actually stationed at DLI in Monterey, CA during 1999-2001. :o)

  8. Fr Patrick Dooling, senior priest, San Carlos Cathedral, Monterey, CA · · Reply

    What a gift your blog is, Constance! Surrounded by military here in Monterey, I have learned to refer to what so many have endured as Post Traumatic Distress. (It would be a Disorder if they weren’t in distress!). Your ability to use your pain and anguish to teach is very powerful indeed, reminding me of the refrain from the 60s folk song by Richard Farina, “Pack Up Your Sorrows.” In Jesus,
    Fr Patrick

  9. Thought your blog was great on St John Paul II. Keep up the great work and thanks for sharing your insights with the world. If there is a way to see if your blog would you please let me know. God bless you

  10. Leo Carrillo · · Reply

    Thank you for your service. You are a blessing to your family, to the Catholic Church. You are inspiring. God bless you more! Psalm 128

    1. Leo, Thank you for your very kind comment! God bless you. Constance

  11. Hi, Constance – I’m working my way to a MA in Theology, too, and would like to suggest a title for your book list: Fr. Thomas Weinandy”s Does God Suffer? Are you familiar with this outstanding text?

    God bless you, your family, and your work.

  12. I tried to email you at that address above and my server said its not accurate
    I wanted to talk to you about your post today on Catholic exchange
    Thank you!

    1. I double checked and my writer’s email is constance.t.hull81@gmail.com It seems to be working fine as I have received other emails from readers this morning. Let me know if you have anymore problems. Pax.

  13. Alexandre · · Reply

    I’m from Brazil and just discovered your blog. Thanks for your service. You are in my prayers. God bless!

  14. Alexandra · · Reply

    My mother also lost 4 children after me. I also lost my first child and then I made some test for Trombophilia and I have found 4 genetic mutations (I have received them from my mother probably). For my next pregnancy I will make a treatment with Clexane. I have a friend that lost 3 babies and with Clexane (by God’s grace) she managed to give birth to her second daughter. Maybe you have done these tests, but I wanted to share my experience…

    1. Thank you! Yes, all of those tests have been done. My issues are hormonal. Pax.

  15. Constance, I saw your video about St. Therese on the Pray More Advent Retreat today. Then I happened upon your website. Delighted to find you and I have a lot in common, I thought I’d stop and say ‘hi’ and thank you for using your gifts for God’s glory!

    First, I also write for Catholic Exchange. Second, my husband, Ben, and I met on Catholic Match about 10 years ago – he living in New Mexico, I in Indiana. Third, I also have a BA in Psychology that I’m not using. I’m a stay-at-home mom to 2 girls with special needs and am homeschooling our oldest daughter, who is 6. We’ve also suffered from infertility but are now expecting our third baby, God willing! So I feel a kindred spirit with you.

    Many blessings to you and your baby.

    1. Hi Jeannie, I apologize for my slow response. I am wrapping up another semester of grad school. Only one more semester of coursework and then it’s onto thesis and my final comprehensive exam. I am so close!

      I have read many of your articles. I am glad to meet someone else who met their spouse on CatholicMatch. :o) After many, many, many medical tests with my Catholic NaPro doctor we still do not have a definitive answer on my miscarriages. It may be my low hormones, it may be a genetic mutation I have, it may be….It’s a bit frustrating to have no concrete answers.

      We are in the adoption process right now, but we are taking our time with it since we are still grieving and I am still trying to accept my infertility. It’s strange to call it that. I can get pregnant no problem. My body can’t seem to keep the babies alive. Our daughter is our miracle! I know God is using all of this for our sanctification, but I definitely do not understand it at all, yet.
      Congratulations on your third child! I will be praying for a healthy pregnancy for baby and you. I hope you have a very blessed rest of your Advent and Christmas season.

  16. Greetings, Constance. I sent you an email, about something that came up in the advent meditation you did, which was wonderful by the way 🙂 Christ’s peace!

    1. Judy,
      I did receive your email. Thank you! I am slow at responding to correspondence right now because I am finishing up another semester of graduate school. The coming spring is my final semester before thesis, so I will be able to devote more time to writing after I finish next summer. Thank you for sharing your family’s story with me. I will be praying for all of you. I hope you have a very blessed final few days of Advent and joyous Christmas season.

  17. Constance, I’m so sorry about your losses. I didn’t know you had lost this baby. XOXO Miscarriage and infertility is such a particular cross. You are all in my heart.

    1. Thank you, Jeannie! I appreciate it.

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